'Sort of,' 'I think,' 'I guess,' 'maybe,' tag questions.
Flag when the speaker is asserting expertise or presenting owned data. Preserve during face-threatening acts and genuine epistemic uncertainty.
Lakoff (1975) · Erickson et al. (1978) · Durik et al. (2008) · Carli (1990)
Hedges, fillers, empty intensifiers, excessive politeness, empty adjectives, uptalk.
Six markers that compound. Powerless-style speakers are rated lower on credibility, attractiveness, and acceptance; powerless forms also impair message memory.
Erickson, Lind, Johnson & O'Barr, JESP (1978) · Hosman & Siltanen (2006)
Subtle, unconscious matching of content nouns, question forms, and energy.
Increases liking and interaction smoothness; in negotiation, instructed mimics secured higher individual and joint outcomes. Do not mirror fillers, accents, or aggression.
Chartrand & Bargh, JPSP (1999) · Maddux, Mullen & Galinsky, JESP (2008) · Ireland et al., Psych Sci (2011)
Pronoun frequency tracks status, mood, and honesty.
Higher status uses less 'I,' more 'we' and 'you.' Excessive 'I' in leadership contexts is worth flagging; 'we' for collective framing, 'you' for engagement.
Pennebaker, Secret Life of Pronouns (2011) · Kacewicz, Pennebaker et al., JLSP (2014)
Common softeners that read as weakness in assertive contexts.
Replace 'just' with the request, 'sorry to bother you' with 'thanks for your patience,' and 'actually' with the actual fact, when the speaker has standing.
Leanse (2015) · Schumann & Ross, Psych Sci (2010) · Schumann, Ritchie & Forest, PSPB (2023)